Whenever the victim sees the people who caused that embarrassment, he or she re-experiences the humiliation, and feels their blood is being spilt yet again. Thus, murder is a one-time act, but to shame a person is to commit murder over and over.
Joseph could have allowed his personal good fortune to be swallowed by the bad. He could have let all his personal pain and bitterness eat up all the success and blessing which he had achieved. But Joseph knew to separate the two.
Israelis often pride themselves in being direct. In Israeli slang, this is called speaking “dougri”, meaning the quality of being straightforward, even blunt, eschewing formalities and getting straight to the point. Is this a positive cultural mannerism?
Our Jewish world has many “tribes”, many different sectors. Each group has its own particular ideology and emphasis. But can we also appreciate and learn from the blessings of another tribe in the Jewish world?